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Speed Dating Explained

 

Speed Dating is all the latest rage. However, many would be suprised to hear that it actually has it's origin in the Jewish community of Los Angeles in the late 1990s. It's purpose was to assist young Jewish singles to meet and marry. Commercial ventures soon sprang up and speed dating quickly spread into the wider community in the United States. Popularised by TV shows such as "Sex and the City" and "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy" it is now a world-wide phenomenon.,

The idea is that speed daters move from one station to the next every few minutes, meeting a new potential partner at each station. The couple at each station take turns in asking each other questions for a preset time - usually 5 to 10 minutes. When this allocated time is up, one of the couple then moves onto the next station. At most events the woman remains at the same station seated while the man moves to the next station. Often speed daters take notes on each potential partner so they can dexcide who they are interested in seeing again after the session.

Speed dating advocates claim it this a much better method of meeting potential partners than a singles bar or pub - both cheaper and safer. They also make the point that speed dating is much less time consuming than other forms of dating services, for example online dating. Meeting each potential partner in-person allows you to quickly gather information and gain a more accurate impression of each person; plus in a face to face encounter, physical attraction is far, far easier to judge than by possibly dubious images posted in an online profile.

One interesting aspect of speed dating is that a dater is not permitted to directly ask another speed dater out for a subsequent date. The organisers only share contact information with those daters that each expressed an interest in the other. This adds a greater degree of comfort to the whole dating process and can be a real advantage for those who have difficulty dealing with rejection. Participants do not have to muster up the nerve to ask someone out face-to-face.

Of course, it may happen that no-one will express an interest in seeing you again. This naturally would be somewhat demoralising, but certainly much, much gentler than being rejected repeatedly as with one-on-one requests.

So what does it cost?
Most Australian speed dating services have fees in the range of $25 to $80 per participant with most around $50.
This usually includes a free drink or two and finger food. Most speed dating events limit numbers to between 20 and 50 people, with equal numbers of male and female participants. As speed dating enthusiasts are quick to point out, you can easily meet a dozen or so potential mates for as little as the cost of a round of drinks.

One down side of speed dating is that you you have a set time per meeting - if you don't hit it off with the person and have absolutely nothing in common, you are committed to staying put until the allocated time is up. But, it's only a matter of a few minutes, and then it is on to the next encounter which will hopefully turn out better. Many would say this is a small negative, especially if you happen to meet that "special someone" during the session.


If you speed dating interests you, and you would like to give it a try, there is one simple rule to follow:
No matter what happens... ENJOY YOURSELF AND HAVE FUN!